How to Ask Someone to Kiss You

How to Ask Someone to Kiss You

You’re out on a date and it’s going super well—but now it’s time to say goodbye. If you really want to lean in for the kiss but you aren’t sure how, you’re not alone! Simply going for it can be a little intimidating, and it’s always good to check your date’s comfort levels before taking the next step. There are a lot of different ways you can ask someone to kiss you, so pick the one that feels right for you.

Method 1 of 10:
Try sincerity to seem heartfelt.

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If you had a really good time on your date, tell them that! Then, follow up with the question about a kiss. Try something like: [1] X Trustworthy Source Go Ask Alice Medical advice site with content written by health promotion specialists affiliated with Columbia University Go to source “This was so much fun, thanks for taking me out tonight. Would it be okay if I kissed you?” “I had a really good time tonight, I hope we can see each other again. Can I kiss you?”
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Method 2 of 10:
Be straight up to avoid confusion.

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Nothing beats the question about kissing without any embellishment. Keep it straight and to the point so your date knows what you’re after. For example: [2] X Research source “Can I kiss you?” “Would it be okay if I kissed you now?”
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Method 3 of 10:
Get a little flirty to have fun with it.

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Try some humor to lighten the mood. You can ask your question in a fun, flirty way to let your date know that you’re cool and casual. Try something like: [3] X Research source “Welcome to kissvile: population, us?” “Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”
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Method 4 of 10:
Ask about their comfort levels.

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You always want to make sure your date is feeling it as much as you are. If you can’t tell, simply ask them with a question like: [4] X Research source “I would love to kiss you right now, if you’re into it. Is that okay?” “How comfortable would you be with kissing right now?”
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Method 5 of 10:
Turn it around on them.

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If you’re picking up on flirtatious body language, ask your date if they’d like to kiss you. Be a little flirty and fun so your date knows that you’re teasing them but you’re also serious. Try something like: [5] X Research source “You want to kiss me, don’t you?” “I can tell that you want to kiss me right now.” “If you’re going to ask me about a kiss, the answer is yes.”
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Method 6 of 10:
Ask what they’d like to do.

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This will give you a good indication of your date’s comfort levels. You can get specific or leave it broad to get an idea of what your date wants to do. Try something like: [6] X Research source “Would you like me to lean in and kiss you right now?” “How would you like to end this date?”
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Method 7 of 10:
Tell them to kiss you.

1
Being bold is a turn-on for most people. If you’re tired of beating around the bush, just tell your date straight up that you’re open to a kiss. For example: [7] X Research source “I want you to kiss me.” “Please kiss me now.”
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Method 8 of 10:
Send a text before you see them.

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You can get a feel for their comfort levels through a flirty text. Try sending a message that tells them how much you want to kiss them, then see if they respond well. For example: [8] X Research source “I just bought some new lipstick. Fancy a taste?” “I really wish I was kissing you right now.” “I want to kiss you.”
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Method 9 of 10:
Draw attention to your lips.

1
Build anticipation by turning your date’s attention toward your mouth. Put on some chapstick or lipstick while you’re chatting to get their mind racing. [9] X Research source This is a more subtle way to hint at kissing, and not everyone will get the message. You should follow up with a direct question to make sure.
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Method 10 of 10:
Step in toward them to get closer.

1
You can ask for a kiss with your body language if you’re confident enough. If you’re saying goodbye to your date, step in closer to them to signal that you’re going in for a kiss. [10] X Research source If your date keeps making eye contact with you and doesn’t step away, they’re probably open for a kiss. If your date takes a step backward or won’t meet your eyes, back off a little. The best way to avoid confusion is to ask with your words. If you aren’t sure what your date wants, just ask!
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Method 1 of 10:
Try sincerity to seem heartfelt.

1
If you had a really good time on your date, tell them that! Then, follow up with the question about a kiss. Try something like: [1] X Trustworthy Source Go Ask Alice Medical advice site with content written by health promotion specialists affiliated with Columbia University Go to source “This was so much fun, thanks for taking me out tonight. Would it be okay if I kissed you?” “I had a really good time tonight, I hope we can see each other again. Can I kiss you?”
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Method 2 of 10:
Be straight up to avoid confusion.

1
Nothing beats the question about kissing without any embellishment. Keep it straight and to the point so your date knows what you’re after. For example: [2] X Research source “Can I kiss you?” “Would it be okay if I kissed you now?”
Advertisement

Method 3 of 10:
Get a little flirty to have fun with it.

1
Try some humor to lighten the mood. You can ask your question in a fun, flirty way to let your date know that you’re cool and casual. Try something like: [3] X Research source “Welcome to kissvile: population, us?” “Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”
Advertisement

Method 4 of 10:
Ask about their comfort levels.

1
You always want to make sure your date is feeling it as much as you are. If you can’t tell, simply ask them with a question like: [4] X Research source “I would love to kiss you right now, if you’re into it. Is that okay?” “How comfortable would you be with kissing right now?”
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Method 5 of 10:
Turn it around on them.

1
If you’re picking up on flirtatious body language, ask your date if they’d like to kiss you. Be a little flirty and fun so your date knows that you’re teasing them but you’re also serious. Try something like: [5] X Research source “You want to kiss me, don’t you?” “I can tell that you want to kiss me right now.” “If you’re going to ask me about a kiss, the answer is yes.”
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Method 6 of 10:
Ask what they’d like to do.

1
This will give you a good indication of your date’s comfort levels. You can get specific or leave it broad to get an idea of what your date wants to do. Try something like: [6] X Research source “Would you like me to lean in and kiss you right now?” “How would you like to end this date?”
Advertisement

Method 7 of 10:
Tell them to kiss you.

1
Being bold is a turn-on for most people. If you’re tired of beating around the bush, just tell your date straight up that you’re open to a kiss. For example: [7] X Research source “I want you to kiss me.” “Please kiss me now.”
Advertisement

Method 8 of 10:
Send a text before you see them.

1
You can get a feel for their comfort levels through a flirty text. Try sending a message that tells them how much you want to kiss them, then see if they respond well. For example: [8] X Research source “I just bought some new lipstick. Fancy a taste?” “I really wish I was kissing you right now.” “I want to kiss you.”
Advertisement

Method 9 of 10:
Draw attention to your lips.

1
Build anticipation by turning your date’s attention toward your mouth. Put on some chapstick or lipstick while you’re chatting to get their mind racing. [9] X Research source This is a more subtle way to hint at kissing, and not everyone will get the message. You should follow up with a direct question to make sure.
Advertisement

Method 10 of 10:
Step in toward them to get closer.

1
You can ask for a kiss with your body language if you’re confident enough. If you’re saying goodbye to your date, step in closer to them to signal that you’re going in for a kiss. [10] X Research source If your date keeps making eye contact with you and doesn’t step away, they’re probably open for a kiss. If your date takes a step backward or won’t meet your eyes, back off a little. The best way to avoid confusion is to ask with your words. If you aren’t sure what your date wants, just ask!
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