Template:Date=2016 04 25Have you ever experienced riding and bonding with an amazing show horse? The love the feel of cantering on their back brings you when you are out on a casual ride? Have you ever experienced the pain of one day going to the stable and realizing that they're not in the stall? Here's how to get over a horse that's left the barn, been given his wings and joined the Hoof beats in Heaven.
How to Get over a Horse
You can start by packing up all of their tack (for example, their saddle, stirrups, reins). Take however much time you need and realize it is going to be very difficult. There are likely to be alot of tears, and that is completely normal. The death of your dear friend and pet is sinking in, and you are coming to terms what's going on. Hold on to the bridal or step inside the stall. Do whatever it takes to help you grieve.
It will probably be best to store their belongings in a corner or upper portion of the barn. You will know where you can find them, but you won't find yourself facing them each time you go into the barn. It may help to keep a small token of the horse with you, like a horseshoe on the wall in your bedroom, and keeping a picture in your room will help.
Proudly make a display of the ribbons that you won with your horse. This will be a great memory.
Expect for the near future that crying happen without warning. The first few days will be the hardest. Then you may find something triggers a fond memory, and you will feel emotional. If your are on the brink of tears, go home and cry for as long as you need to. You and your horse had a bond, you grew close. It's natural.
When you feel up to it, start riding other horses. You will find a different horse that you can enjoy riding and ultimately bond with. This helps because you can find a new love. You will never forget you previous horse, as you will find each has their very own personality. You will also be able to smile at reminders of your first horse, and find they warm your heart.
You will likely want to sit out a few horse shows, as you get to know your new horse. You need to ensure that you bond and are confident in both of your skills. You may find it painful to ride in a show with another horse, so you truly should take as much time as you need. It may take months before you feel like competing again.
Remind yourself that your horse loved you as much as you loved him (her). This will always let you know that the horse always loved you and will never forget you. All beloved pets are said to cross the Rainbow Bridge, looking down over us, waiting for the day that we will be joined with them again.